In today’s podcast, Matt, Rhonda and David discuss relationship
problems, and how to overcome them. We also give instructions on
the Paradoxical Invitation, one of the most important and difficult
techniques for TEAM-CBT therapists to learn.
We started today’s podcast interviewing Tania Ahern and Andy
Persson who give a plug for the upcoming TEAM-CBT intensive from
August 14 to 17, 2023 in Bristol, and incredible British city with
an outstanding TEAM-CBT training program in store for you. Many
notable TEAM experts will be presenting, including Drs. Leigh
Harrington, Heather Clague, Marius Wirga, Stirling Moorey, Mike
Christensen and many other notable teachers. Special thanks
to Peter Spurrier for being a fantastic TEAM therapist and
organizer!
I will also be there virtually doing a keynote address, a Q and
A session, and a live TEAM-CBT demo with a workshop volunteer. The
amazing Mike Christensen will be my co-therapist. Hope to see you
there! Go to TEAMCBT.UK for registration and more information.
Today we focus on relationship problems, starting with a real
example, which often makes for the best teaching. Rhonda recently
spent time with her son and daughter-in-law to help with their new
twin babies. Rhonda’s daughter-in-law had a very difficult
delivery, and was in the hospital for several weeks following the
birth of the babies. Rhonda worked relentlessly cooking and
cleaning for them, feeding the babies, changing their diapers, and
comforting them, and providing help for the new mom, who was
overwhelmed and fearful of bathing the babies, thinking she might
hurt them when attempting to bathe them.
As so often happens in real life, Rhonda ran into a severe
conflict with her daughter-in-law and responded with anger, and we
all so often do. She reveals how terrible she and her
daughter-in-law felt, and how she saved the day after deciding to
have a “redo” of the interaction, using the Five Secrets of
Effective Communication.
Rhonda, Matt and David described one of the most difficult
therapy tools in TEAM-CBT, the Paradoxical Invitation Step, and
contrasted it with the Straightforward Invitation.
Rhonda also mentioned some podcasts for further information on
the Relationship Journal and the Interpersonal Model in TEAM-CBT.
There are even more, but here are some that might interest you. My
book, Feeling Good Together, is also a must-read for anyone wanting
to make profound changes in the way you connect with the people you
love, as well as your patients if you’re a shrink!
We finished today’s podcast with some entertaining role-playing
exercises, using the Five Secrets of Effective Communication in
interactions with extremely difficult individuals. This gave me the
chance to role-play some incredibly obnoxious and practically
impossible to please. My favorite role!
Enjoy!
Warmly,
Rhonda, Matt, and David
About the Podcast
This podcast features David D. Burns MD, author of "Feeling Good, The New Mood Therapy," describing powerful new techniques to overcome depression and anxiety and develop greater joy and self-esteem. For therapists and the general public alike!